All is fair in love and war, so the saying goes.
When two people who love each other find themselves in disagreement, they both must decide on what is more important: being right and proving their point or understanding and supporting each other.
Those are the choices.
But when at war, who can you run to?
And if you are at war with the one you love, are you piloting a ship going down in flames?
I believe the relationship should be a sanctuary.
Your relationship should be a safe place, one which allows you to be yourself, to express your feelings, and to be heard. It should be a sanctuary, a resting place that allows you to take off the armor that you wear for the world – because that armor gets heavy – and feel confident and assured that you will not be attacked by your lover.
We all have to fight so many battles in this world. It seems counterintuitive and counterproductive to have to come home and continue that very battle with the person you love.
And although relationships cannot exist in a state of perpetual bliss – conflict will arise – love and respect should never be sacrificed to serve the ego’s selfish nature. Otherwise, what are we doing here?
Ronaldo Gilley 